2nd base in dating
If you’ve been reading my newsletters long enough, you know that while such events are all encouraging, none of them qualify as “real”.Real only happens when it’s clear that a man is your committed boyfriend.
Most of us have experienced a serious relationship by accident, usually when we really like the person we’re dating and it just naturally develops into something more.Just because you get this blog emailed to you doesn’t mean you’re on my mailing list.My mailing list is a completely separate newsletter with completely separate advice that goes out every Tuesday.You can overrreact to each seemingly personal slight, or you can deal with it in a graceful and detached manner like Lorraine. I couldn’t disagree with Kristy more as far as her logic for not giving the guy Lorraine went on a date with a 2nd chance.I currently have 4 or 5 “backups” because I’m focusing most of my attention on one guy at the moment.I find this man incredibly shallow and disrespectful. Will he also do this to Lorraine (have a gal on the sidelines so to speak) in case Lorraine doesn’t work out to HIS expectations? With the comment he made “if things don’t work out, I will call you” would have most women thinking what a jerk!
Conveniently, Lorraine was available-wonder how much respect for her is going on?
But what Kristy fails to realize is that, if she were Lorraine, her pride would have prevented her from going on a lovely date with a man who did absolutely NOTHING wrong.
His biggest crime, apparently, was that he met another woman first and was honest enough to – gasp!
If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.
No, the problem is that you EXPECT anything different. I am NOT telling you to accept all their bad behavior. Well, 2 weeks or so after that conversation, he phoned me again, and told me that things didn’t work out with that other lady and asked me out. I rarely feel as comfortable on a first date as I did with him, like we really “clicked”. And she has a really great chance of going on a second date with a man about whom she’s quite excited.