Adult nursing relationship
"Even within the alternative communities, a lot of people don't understand it," Ellie explains. "It all comes down to one basic premise: your kink is not my kink and that's OK."Part of ANR's taboo stems from some fundamental misunderstandings about who participates in it – and what it means.Where the "ick" factor comes in for many people – and where the triggering nature of the act lies for some survivors of childhood sexual abuse – is that it's perceived to be sexualizing an act that's associated with babies or child rearing.
So what draws people into such uncommon and misunderstood relationships?Their home appears cozy and comfortable, and Garett works long hours while Ellie stays home and tends to household needs.They also engage in what they call "feeding" – Ellie induces lactation and produces breast milk for Garett to consume.They have a clear affection for each other, touching each other gently on the shoulder when one says something the other appreciates and often looking at each other lovingly throughout conversation.Their respect and adoration for one another comes through even over a Skype call from their home in Queensland, Australia.while breastfeeding in the morning is ideal for me."Adult nursing relationships are often seen as taboo, as evidenced by sensational reporting, like when the New York Post accompanied a story about a couple in an ANR with the tag "WTF." People who engage in ANR are often portrayed in the media as "freaks," with commenters quick to point out how "gross" the act is.
The comments following an ANR story on the website Scary Mommy reveals an array of people offering judgment on the couple in question, with some wondering why they feel the need to share their story publicly, and one commenter going as far as to speculate as to whether the ANR participants are "attention seeking egomaniacs." Even in the world of kink and fetishes, ANR participants are outliers.
"Personally, I'm platonic when it comes to breastfeeding," wrote one user on Fet Life.
"The idea of just relaxing, covered in blankets, sipping some tea, coffee, or chai…
"It's a nice way to relax or fall asleep at the end of the day," says Chelsea.
This is partially backed up by scientific research, which shows that oxytocin can lessen fear and anxiety by reducing activation of the amygdala.
People's reasons for entering ANRs can be wildly different.