Advice about dating a married man
He and I have a lot of the same interest & we work in the same industry & know many of the same people.I met a man about 18 months ago through work @ a yearly conference for schools in our state.
He may even blurt out, "I've never felt this way before and I can see spending the rest of my life with you." This may sound like a commitment to a future with you. Don't confuse his loving the way you make him feel with his loving you and making a commitment to you. Cheating on his wife tells you how he deals with any situation he doesn't like.a.k.a He'll NEVER stay that into you There are no positive reasons for dating a married man.Even the good reasons don't stand the test of time and turn out to be bad ideas in good ideas' clothing.We found each other and have been in love for many many years. Your post is full of assumptions about what constitutes a "legitimate" relationship," that all women must be looking for future commitments from every man they date, that the married man must be lying to his wife, etc.And......we're far from being the only ones in this situation. You might want to take a trans-cultural look at your own assumptions before laying them out as if they were "the rule" and anything that doesn't fit them is "an exception." this: 1. My dad cheated on my mom (and my brother and I - I look at the whole thing as a betrayl) several times through their marriage. If you meet someone you love more than your spouse, just get divorced, break up, and be with the one you love. Integrity will hurt, but it hurts less in the long run.As a request I would plead you to write something on Indian Arranged marriages!!! I was busy with audits & traveling but finally checked email.
You took interview of a Mistress/ Other woman "Inside the Mind of a Mistress" . He had emailed me several times asking to bring samples by, and then finally lunch.
I suspect you're calming personal fears, or perhaps appealing to a bruised demographic. It made my break up a piece of cake when I objectively read each point! He finally ended up marrying the last woman he cheated with. The problem is there is no Loyalty in the world left or almost none. I think it is laziness to keep an affair going whilst still married. While the commentor above, David Kaplan, does rightly point out that sometimes a cheater or cheaters wind up together long term or even married.
I am ashamed I was in this relationship and it will be a while until I am ready and healthy to be a suitable partner in a relationship. If however you check out the 109 comments ( on this blog when it appeared at another site I am associated with, you'll see how much an exception to the rule you fortunately are. I think that people who make commitments and don't keep them (and they try to justify them on PT) are delusional and selfish. I read somewhere that it takes the average "troubled" marriage just 5 years to work itself out. Peple want want instant gratification when they want and whenever they want it. Most people want to do life easy (no effort/instant gratification) rather than doing life right(effort/work/eventually long term gratification and success). But the reality is that in a high percentage of the cases these 'relationships' don't work out long term.
free products for my school, trips, spending money, traveling... I was married for 20 years & as a single mother, now divorced my lifestyle was drastically altered (as my ex husband took all of our money & left the state & gave up custody of our children to be with his former fiance.
My childrend & I have suffered a great deal of pain & anguish by his actions.
You are evidence of his avoiding dealing with unpleasant situations head on. Having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. He has a legitimate married relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate one with you to make up for what heâs missing in his marriage. Even though he's the one that made it difficult to say "No." And even though he tells you how wonderful you are. Many men (and women) have difficulty accepting full responsibility for their deceitful actions.