Alpha female dating relationship
The Alpha men didn't seem to want to date me for long periods of time either.I am opinionated (I hosted two radio shows and an Internet TV show and have spent years writing opinion pieces); I am competitive (on the tennis and squash courts, I am and have always been a fist-pumping, screaming maniac -- kind of like this woman); I can be hard-headed (I'm not one to back down easily).
But Dave loves me for these parts of my strong personality, and I love him even more for it.It's not a matter of who is perfect; it's a matter of in what environment does he thrive and what environment do I do well.If you give a plant exactly what it needs, it will do really well and it will take care of you, but you have to understand how that plant works.And if you are in front of a plant and say this isn't doing what I want, then go find another plant, and don't wait years of your life sticking around and waiting for it to change into something else.On a personal note, I wouldn't say I'm 100 percent Alpha, but I certainly have some Alpha qualities.When I'm out and about talking to singles, I often meet a lot of women who I would consider to be "Alpha females": opinionated, successful, dominant, like to be in control, strong personality.
When the topic of dating comes up, these women lament that they can't find strong, successful men to date, that they are tired of dating men they can walk all over, that they want men to stand up and take the reins.
For years, I fought against the idea that perhaps I wasn't meant to be with an Alpha male, a la Don Draper.
I thought I wanted that type of man, a man who led, a man who put me in my place, a man whose dominance I could be in awe of.
In the animal world, it's just as likely that the Alpha in a wolf pack would be female as male.
However, to acquire the status of Alpha, a female would have to kill a lot more other wolves than a male would. Sonya Rhodes new book, The Alpha Woman Meets Her Match, says that shouldn’t be the case.
I was recently described as being “not girlfriend material” and I blame the fact that I'm an Alpha woman. I'm also hard to impress, high-maintenance, volatile, easy to bore, and - shockingly, I know - single.