Dating a man who is separated but not divorced
A guy I was seeing who was separated—not divorced was still sleeping with his ex.
It's kind of like hanging out with your platonic female divorced friend and hearing her perspective on your divorce and your love life issues.If you’re ready to move on and you decide to say yes to a date, be honest with your potential partner from the very start. You don’t have to tell them every detail of your marriage breakdown, but do let them know that the divorce is in process (if it’s not you might want to rethink dating until it is), and be clear that reconciliation with your ex is not something you want.Dating while separated is possible, but only if you’re 100% honest with yourself and your potential partner. Let yourself heal and get used to your own company before seeking out a new relationship.If you’re separated but not divorced, dating is a tricky subject.On one hand, it’s natural to want to find companionship and move on from your marriage.You can’t date until you’re both sure it’s over and you’re not harboring a secret desire to get back together. You need some time and space to fall in love with yourself again first and foremost.
You might not want to talk to your ex about your current dating plans, but if you’re not divorced yet it’s the most honest thing to do. Factor in a little pamper time or even a weekend break here and there to give yourself time to heal. If you’re still hoping to get back together with your partner, or still dealing with a lot of sadness and bitterness surrounding the separation, you’re not ready yet. It’s a huge step, and it’s only natural to feel some hesitation.
Next day’s text “You are an amazing guy, but still being married is an issue for me”. I even skipped grad school class to go on the date.
There are many possible reasons people have issues with dating someone who is separated—not officially divorced: They think the person could end up getting back with their ex, they think the person isn’t mentally ready, they think that dating someone who isn’t officially divorced is the same thing as dating a married man.
Another says “I see you’re separated…I’m looking for a serious relationship”.
I also went on a date with a really cool girl and had a great time.
I wouldn’t fear being exclusive with the right person.