Dating and ukranian
Writing/dating only one woman at a time is a bad idea.
Well, then again Seriously, these are serious and honest women (for the most part) and they deserve the same respect. She will either bleed you until you are dry (if she is very slick) or just disappear after a quick score (if you are lucky). Any Ukrainian woman who asks you for money is just trying to scam you.An honest woman would not ask; she has too much pride.Besides, she has already lived for 20 years without your "help." Why does she need you now?And this does not even include all of the unexpected experiences I have had with the women themselves!
I do not care how many letters you have exchanged or how many phone calls you have made, once you see her in person, things will change.
Her hair color and style was changed and it looked like she had gained about 20 pounds! But not always, and you do not marry a photo, you marry a real person. You may get lucky and find the woman you end up marrying right away. You need to get over the idea of being a gentleman. I heard it said that only 4% of US-Russian relationships are successful.
Get to know her, what she thinks, how she thinks, her dreams, desires, passions, hobbies, etc Try to understand (as they say in Russia) her inner world. I do know some people that things worked out this way with. With that in mind you will have to date and meet 25 ladies on average before finding your wife. I met over 150 ladies in person, and actively dated around 30 of them.
She wants love and respect, not a free ride to the west! They have to deal with drunk husbands/boyfriends who think nothing about going out and finding a mistress, don't want to support their family (so she goes out to work), and generally most of the decisions and hard choices fall to the ladies.
Would you be interested in moving thousands of miles away from home, leaving all your family and friends, learning a new language, just to improve your standard of living? She will show you her claws if she thinks you are using her just as a "trophy wife." Find someone to be your lover, wife, and equal partner, not someone you can dominate and control.
A Russian woman does not even consider the two of you to be in a "real" relationship until you have met in person! It is just not smart and sets you up for trouble (and makes the ladies think it is easy and encourages more of the same behavior). Not being prepared to visit: You did know that in order to bring her over here as a fiancee, you must visit her, in her country?