Dating father child
Let me sidebar for a moment to emphasize an earlier point made about the complications of single parenting and how a single dad must balance the expectations of his ex, his kids, and his girlfriend.Note how he assured her that the children and the mother know about her.
I receive lots of emails from women, many without children, asking questions about dating single dads.The mom may be overly territorial and that Momma Bear will see any female, and especially one who takes special interest in her kids, as a dangerous intruder that must be closely watched and, if necessary, stopped.For single dads in such a situation, how to blend the kids and the new girlfriend becomes a matter of risk versus reward.If the father has been single for a long time, the kids are older, or overly attached, a new woman in daddy’s life can easily be considered a separate threat because she is, ‘taking daddy away.’ That brings its own set of issues.Divorce complicates everything; is it any wonder God, and everybody else, hates it.She could become less flexible to unforseen changes in the visitation schedule or choose not to help in the logistics of co-parenting.
While this is perhaps less an issue if the mom is in a relationship or married, heaven forbid if she is single and alone.
And for single dads who are doing the job of fatherhood right, it should be a sign.
Single fathers – and single mothers – must be careful who they allow into their children’s lives.
Most women, especially those without children, don’t understand that lots of single dads live in fear of their child’s mother. But there are countless fathers in a state of perpetual anxiety that one wrong move on his part and the mom will make his life difficult.
She might try to turn his kids against him, or attempt take his kid(s) from him; all as a way to punish him for her displeasure, or out of jealousy.
He worries that a new, overly zealous, girlfriend may threaten the mom’s role, and suddenly his kids become ‘too busy’ to see dad.