Dating habits france
No ladies, the concept of dating several guys in France kind of goes out the window once you seal the deal with a kiss. If you’re out in a rowdy bar and everyone is just looking to have a good time, this rule might not apply.But if you’ve gone out with a guy a few times and you haven’t kissed him yet, think things through before you plant one on him under the Eiffel Tower for fun.
The “rules” and differences between French and American dating culture are definitely there, but if you don’t know about them, you might end up hurt and confused or leave someone else feeling that way.While I usually don’t subscribe to most stereotypes, there are always a few that are true enough to merit their labels. Playful—but always polite—conversations can be had between friends, between strangers, and even between married men and women with people who aren’t their significant other (gasp! In other cultures this may raise a few eyebrows, and tempers, but in France it’s just a conversation, there’s no strings attached. It’s more complicated than that, but that’s the most concise way I can think to put it.While in the US and the UK “dating” is seen as a series of meetings that adheres to certain rules and protocols—waiting the proper amount of time before calling someone, arranging a date, wait appropriate number of dates before initiating appropriate amount of intimacy—before the time comes to have the boyfriend/girlfriend talk, the French tend to have a more laid back attitude.So if you’re asked out and say no and mean no, be prepared for him to ask you out a couple of more times.This is part of the chase when it comes to dating a French guy.They don’t always prearrange dates; expect to get a few last minute calls asking for your company.
Their dates aren’t always one-on-one; expect a good amount of those calls I mentioned (especially at first) to include the company of some friends. In the UK and US it’s not uncommon to date a couple of people at the same time and get to know them before you decide if you want to pursue a serious relationship with one of them and get rid of the rest. During this “get to know you” period, you may kiss one or more of your suitors just to test the waters or move things past the “just friends” label.
What this means for you: I mentioned before that French people don’t generally have “the talk” where the prospective couple decides if they want to be exclusive, so how do you know if you and your Parisian paramour are BF and GF? This doesn’t really happen in French dating culture.
If, during your courtship, you kiss on the lips it’s taken as a non-verbal agreement that you’re attracted to each other and are in a relationship.
What this means for you: Culture isn’t always an excuse.
Don’t accept all behaviors just because you think it might be a cultural difference.
If something makes you uncomfortable or you aren’t really sure where you stand, speak up.