Dating tips for women in 20s
Most of you already know I got divorced 9 years later, and I could have avoided a mountain of headaches. Damn, during high school there were swarms of hot girls all over the place, and as a young dumb teenager I just became used to it. Holy crap, was I in for a shock when I left high school and went right into the full-time corporate world!My world shifted from hot, young, fun, happy high school girls to overweight, angry, jaded, stressed out, over-33 office women.
Often I find myself being very jealous of these guys, even when they’re screwing up and making all the usual mistakes.They were either variations of the “take her out to dinner and kiss her ass” variety (like that will get you laid fast) or the “lie to her and tell her you’re a doctor” variety (which was only good if you want one night stands…lying during the seduction phase is useless if you desire relationships or any other form of recurring sex). For most of my teenage and early adult years, I was under the impression that if I somehow “got” a woman to kiss me or have sex with me, I was somehow convincing her or tricking her into doing something she didn’t want to do.So in my early 20s, I was the typical beta stumbling around in the dark, trying to do what felt right (which is almost always wrong when it comes to women), not getting laid very much beyond when I got lucky. Only much later in life did I discover it’s actually the exact opposite.Divorced or married, it made little difference, these women were radically different than the happy high school girls I was used to. Seriously, going from high school directly into the corporate world was a huge culture shock. In the corporate world, suddenly I heard women talk about how stupid men were and how all men were liars. I had no idea how to dance but I did my best to dance with Darkhair. I was too much of a pussy and didn’t know how to follow through.I wasn’t prepared for such a sheer change in outlook. While grinding up on Modelchick, Chris saw us and shook his head as if it say “No, no, that’s not how you do it you dumbass.” Then he walked over to us, and shoved us together. Chris laid Modelchick, plus many others, probably Darkhair too.It is you creating a pathway for women to be comfortable with their desire to have sex with you as fast as possible without judgment. Societal Programming trains women to be sweet and polite to strangers.
This is one of the very rare times Societal Programming actually works in your favor. A lot of younger guys are very ashamed that they are virgins, or have only had sex with three women or whatever.
I thought about doing it at the time, but I didn’t. It’s my biggest life regret that’s more important to you. We could have dated, fallen in love, moved in together, had the exact same two children, then broken up as friends perhaps three for four years later. Of course, this is complete bullshit, but that’s what I thought. You have easier access to women, including attractive women, in high school and college than at any other time in your life.
My second biggest regret in life was getting legally married to the woman I married back when I was 25 years old. She simply would have moved out, I would have started paying child support, and her and I would have amicably moved on. That’s a far cry from a divorce, alimony, huge amounts of anger (mostly on her part), financial expense, lawyers, damaged credit records, tax complications, bitter memories, and literally of wasted time on the part of her and I (and my children) that we’ll never be able to get back. I didn’t go to college of course, because going to college in the modern era is usually a terrible idea, but I did go to high school.
Always remember that when you want to say hi to that cute girl, or ask a girl out, regardless of the outcome she will be sweet about it. They assume that if they tell a woman of their inexperience, she’ll laugh at them and turn down sex for that reason alone.
While it’s true there are a small percentage of women who prefer experienced men, the vast majority of women out there, I’d say at least 85%, do not give a about shit how sexually experienced you are.
Worse, it may actually turn them off if you tell them otherwise. For every woman who doesn’t like you, there’s another right around the corner who will. A super hot girl will reject you in a bar (or bookstore or dating site) and then 30 seconds later the next super hot girl you hit up, who is just as hot and in the exact same location as the first girl, will really like you.