The happier and more balanced we are, the better we’re going to be for our child,” she says.
“Of course there are sacrifices for single mothers, but we needn’t give up everything.When he was at the stage to introduce her to his children, he was concerned about the effect this development might have on them. Because Andrea is a ceramic artist, Frank thinks a clay-working visit with his kids might be a good entrée for introducing his new friend.“Andrea is more than willing,” he says, “and I thought it would be a good way to ease her into the lives of the children.Either way, I knew I would know when they were ready to meet her.” Frank was right.The meeting between Andrea and his kids went well and the pair are still together and doing great.I just want him to be happy.” Fiona Gulliver (a pseudonym) waited for two years after her husband left before entertaining the thought of connecting with another man. She has speed-dated, joined organized dating clubs and visited any number of online dating sites.
It was both for the sake of decorum and so as not to further disrupt the lives of her kids, then only 10 and five. At first she restricted dating to nights when the children were visiting their dad.
The online profile had been intriguing enough: Dark-eyed stranger, at least as tall as me, a smattering of common musical tastes (I would forgive him Metallica), some hint of wit, a suggestion of creative energy, a fondness for the canine set, his own hair.
My requirements were few and he seemed to fulfill them, so we met at a bar.
Frank was caught unawares when his 11-year marriage ended a year ago.
He and his two children, aged 10 and 12, are still adjusting to the change.
One such challenge is the guilt of dating, and the weight it brings to bear on our perception of our entitlement to a healthy relationship.