Im dating your dad
It doesn't sound to me that you dislike your father's girlfriend.
I can certainly understand why this makes you uncomfortable.I find this gross and I'm really uncomfortable with this behavior.I can't believe I'm saying this but I want my old dad back the one that was nicer and who used to watch TV shows with with me. A Sad Teen Dear Teen, I really get it and I'm glad that you wrote to me. Parents are not big on surprises where your romantic life is concerned. Showing up with a random, unexpected guy has more potential for failure than success. Remember, these people used to change your diapers. A great alternative is telling them that he’ll drop by to spend a short time on his way to somewhere. An hour or two at most is a safe amount of time for a first visit. Be polite without freaking out if they have a zillion questions. Family dinners are a common first time meeting moment but can be very stressful. If this is your first boyfriend (and they’ve said you’re too young to date) or some other situation that could be drama-filled, it helps to have an advocate on your side while you tell the other parent. DON’T lead with the stuff they might see as negatives. It’s no biggie to you but it will be to your folks.
It’ll help humanize the mystery guy so that they can stop imagining some scary dude stealing their li’l girl. Sexy selfies or pictures of the two of you hugged up can be saved for another time, like Neverary. It’s natural for them to feel bittersweet about you growing up. Visualize the future: You love him, your parents love him and he didn’t even mind when your little brother kicked him in the shins.
It seems to me that adults who divorce, and all the people who are quick to recommend a divorce, and who typically subscribe to the theory that kids are traumatized by parents who sleep with people other than their other biological parent when it's called an "affair", will then also subscribe to the theory that these same kids are instantly just fine with it and should show love and support for the new "lover" the very moment divorce papers are signed just because it is now "socially acceptable". Bad feelings about their parents' attention to new lovers can linger for many years.
It's too much to expect a child to go from supposedly being traumatized by a parent's affair lover to being open, loving, and accepting of a new lover at the mere stroke of a pen on a divorce paper.
Before my dad was dating this woman I would always watch TV shows and even stay up late with my brother and dad most of the time.
When it was just me and my father we would watch our favorite TV shows together. He is always hugging his girlfriend and kissing her around me.
G., I feel less close to my recently divorced dad ever since my dad has been dating.