Lost and damned dating
You enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. However there is one problem: his dating profile is still active.If this sounds like your situation, you’re not alone.
He’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them.We have a great time together and he calls every night to chat or say goodnight.I am really interested in him and I get the feeling that he feels the same way.Silly logic aside, I would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing I asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you EXCLUSIVE and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?Until the conversation happens, I would say it is fair for a guy to keep his profile up.I get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people I could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not ?
His response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile.
For the last few months this has been by far the question I’ve received most often from readers.
I had touched on a similar topic last year in my post my boyfriend has kept his online dating profile active.
What You Do The one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums.
If he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off.
Once you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, I recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period.