My daughter is dating a much older man
Doomed from the moment the Darling Bud Of May slipped a diamond ring on her slender finger and said ‘I do’ to a man 25 years her senior.And Catherine is certainly not alone in falling victim to the age-gap blues.
I saw myself becoming a carer, and worse, being coerced into a life the elderly lead; sedentary and safe, punctuated with formal soirees for his doddery friends, the wives of whom disliked and distrusted me for my comparative youth.My beau was sophisticated, intelligent and exuded the allure that comes with a rarefied lifestyle.We ate in restaurants that my male peers could neither afford nor be afforded a reservation; we enjoyed the best seats at the opera and luxuriated in first-class travel.At the time, I sincerely believed, to paraphrase Mae West, it’s not the age of the men in your life, it’s the life — or high life — in your men.For, mea culpa, money was an attraction; when I was 30, I fell for a successful financier of 55 — the same age Michael Douglas was at his wedding to Catherine.I was a size 8, but he told me I was as fat as a barrel.
I would dissolve in tears until I began to interpret his attacks as a form of control exercised by a man who was growing insecure.
It's certainly not uncommon for a woman to prefer dating older men, and vice versa.
This is known as the age-differential effect, explains psychologist Vinita Mehta in the article "When It Comes To Dating, Do Age Differences Matter? If your daughter is one of many women who are drawn to older men, there may be little you can do about it.
When I asked where her husband was, she replied he was having treatment for prostate cancer.
When I asked after her children, she revealed they didn’t have any. The financier was a military buff and the lawyer liked mechanical birds.
Moreover, to paraphrase Zsa Zsa Gabor, what good was something hard on your finger when your man has gone soft, even after a double dose of Viagra?