Negative views on interracial dating
Psychologist Karen Wu studies multicultural relationships at the University of California, Irvine, and has found that students in interracial relationships tend to be more open to all types of relationships in general.“They don’t feel as strongly about homosexual or multiracial partners than the people who are in ‘traditional’ relationships.
“It had always been like, ‘Hey, I love this person and we are dating and that’s cool.’ It wasn’t about race.” Sometimes, you need to take a step back and appreciate the fact that you have a cool person who reciprocates your fuzzy feelings.Despite the persistent prejudice in the world, we can’t deny that as a country we’ve come pretty far in taking steps to end racial discrimination.Before all of you start yelling about how I’m wrong, just take a deep breath, have a calming sip of tea and acknowledge that nowadays, in our millennial generation, we are actively open and accepting to diversity in a way that our forefathers would have gagged at.One second you’re looking at young lovers holding hands, and then suddenly the deep dark part of your brain whispers, “I wonder if their kids are going to be white or black? Interracial relationships and marriages may be on the rise, but we still see them differently.Additionally, the person who’s actually in an interracial relationship is going to have a different set of experiences than a white, heterosexual cis couple, and that’s solely based on the fact that the entire universe can’t seem to get over it.Disappointingly, prejudice has evolved along with our mindsets and has adapted to become subtle and internalized.
What’s shocking to me is how sneaky racial discrimination is when it comes to encountering a couple in an interracial relationship. Though you might never say one hateful word, your mind will endlessly wonder what their freaking babies will look like.
The beautiful thing about this is that now they know how to truly cherish what is considered “different.” “I’m the palest skinned woman you’ve ever seen, and I’m dating a black guy,” says Lindsay Lambert, a junior at the University of Oregon.
“To be completely and shamefully honest, before I dated my boyfriend I probably would have stared at an interracial couple too.
Because they’ve had that mask removed, they’re comfortable with couples that are considered non-traditional.” For people in an interracial relationship, their life is different because they have broken away from that white picket fence romance.
They have open eyes that are aware that what they take for a normal, loving relationship defies everyone else’s standard.
In high school, I went over to a classmate’s house and she just happened to be the daughter of Filipino immigrants.