Not friends but not dating
Labels serve a necessary function in the dating ecosystem, because they draw the lines of a relationship and decide where two people who sleep together go after they’re done sleeping together.
You’re certainly not talking about anything interesting with someone who’s in your life for the sole purpose of an orgasm and it’s hard to believe that a meaningful connection can grow from a few lackluster pumps and groans over the course of a few months.“Relationships, platonic or otherwise, are initiated out of mutual interest or compatibility, and the draw of attractiveness is certainly a primary factor,” says Ivankovich.“But since many of the same characteristics that we would seek in a romantic relationship are the same ones we seek in a platonic relationship, it is no surprise that many friends find each themselves interested in each other.”If it hasn’t gone anywhere just yet, here’s why—from the perspective of single men.1. If you only see your guy friend sporadically, you might not be on his relationship radar just yet.See, declaring a WELP celebrates the act of casual sex without any restrictions, which, as you may have heard, much to the horror of your grandparents, is how many people are doing it nowadays.There are 50 million users on Tinder at any given time and it’s hard to believe that -- of the 1 billion swipes that happen on the daily -- 999,999,999 will evolve into a loving relationship.Have you been seeing someone on the regular who satisfies one critical need in your life (hint: sex)?
Are they a part of your life out of utter convenience?
So, what do we make of all these in-between people who make us sigh “welp...” right after a lackluster sexual performance?
If you answer “yes” to any of the following questions, then there’s an increasingly high chance you’re with a WELP, someone who’s a part of your life for the sole purpose of sex who could disappear tomorrow and leave you in little to no distress. The truth is, there’s just far less pressure to commit to someone RIGHT now than there was even 10 years ago.
You two have obvious chemistry—you flirt, you chat, you hang out—but the buck stops there. Since this generation of singles is more emotionally-evolved than ever before, traditional dating norms have basically been tossed out the window, says psychologist Karla Ivankovich, Ph.
D., a professor of psychology at the University of Illinois, Springfield.
About as hard as picking up your phone and swiping right.