True life dating someone older
I'm 58 and my girlfriend is 8 years younger than me, which doesn't seem like much of a difference physically... Of course, that depends on the health and biological age of the people. I was beginning to believe that because of this, men gravitated toward girls 20 years thier juniour or even more. If hes old enough to be her dad then im a bit grossed out and convinced he must be a pedophile of some sort.
Earlier on life's conveyer belt, the typical 65-year-old man has at least one significant health issue.Plus, having an experienced career woman as a mate allows confidential career advice that may not be possible from peers. Women live five years longer than men, and men die earlier of nine of the top ten leading causes of death. There now are more than four widows for every widower.Current research summarized in a BBC review, suggests this is So, on average, a man choosing a woman five years older is marrying his physiological equal. If an 80-year-old man is married to a 75-year-old, physiologically 70, even if she still loves him, she may feel he's an albatross and he may feel he's a burden.It sucks when a woman is in her mid-late 40s and you are all ready to go and she has no interest.I don't believe age is very important at all, I think what determines a great relationship is that both partners are of similar emotional maturity.My rule of thumb is, if the person im with could technicaly have concieved a child the same as me then they are too old and if I, by age, could have concieved a child the same age as the younger prospect then he is to young. Some people in excellent health are biologically 10 years younger than their average age peers. Assuming two adults, the older person's age, divided by 2, plus 7.
That means a man cannot be older then 12 years or younger then 12 years. I often find the people saying age is just a number to be somewhat frilly nilly. But i do feel there should be some guidelines when it comes to age differences. And some are easily 10 years older than their actual age, especially if they are overweight, smoke, drink, don't exercise, and eat crap. If the younger party in question is below that age, walk away.
Marrying an older woman, on average, means marrying a more mature person. Parenting is far more difficult and stressful than many people realize.
It requires great maturity and equanimity to consistently set limits but not excessive ones, remain calm, and collaboratively solve problems with your child.
If he's married to a 60 year-old woman, he's married to someone who, on average, is physiologically ten years younger and thus likely healthier and more vigorous, physically and mentally.
If you'd feel more comfortable growing old with someone in similar shape to you, consider an older woman.
I knew in my heart that marrying my husband was a good fit.