What is the protocol for internet dating
Most likely you would think of a polite way to let them down, for example ‘sorry I’m not looking for a relationship’ or ‘I’ve already got a boyfriend/girlfriend’ sort of thing.Unfortunately, you can’t get away with these excuses online because, well, let’s face it, you are looking for a relationship and that’s entirely why you’ve come here.
Hell, our lives are complicated with kids, elderly parents, work, the whole catastrophe. If you’re just that not attracted enough for a second date, let the date play out and if offered the bounce to another venue, avoid it politely.So refrain from the likes of ‘hi beautiful’, ‘you look nice’ and ‘let’s chat’, and put together a thought-out message that won’t end up in the trash.Something that says ‘Hey, I took the time to read your profile, we seem to have things in common and I’d like to know more about you, if you like my profile too’ (not literally though! How to say ‘thanks, but no thanks’If you were approached in a bar by someone you weren’t that interested in you wouldn’t just ignore them, would you?If he proposed a fancy dinner or dinner and a movie, he’s not educated about Dating 2.0. The day before, he should be confirming via text or phone call. This is just good manners and helps to avoid the flake factor. A good flake (from either party) will involve a counter offer via voice or text. Tell him you’ll call him another time (you won’t) or ignore the text. If those aren’t accurate, your first date could be very brief.“Something’s come up and I’d like to reschedule for another time.” That’s a good flake because he still wants to see you. Internalize this: Men are visual, if you can catch his eye, you can catch his heart. If he looks or acts nervous, that’s a good sign because he’s neither a player nor a serial dater. Nervousness is not a sign of confidence and it’s confidence that you’re attracted to.After all, you know how the saying goes, there’re plenty more fish...
When should you remove your profile So you’ve met someone online who you’re interested in, things are going well and you’re not using the site anymore.
Now, I’ve seen people respond badly to this kind of message almost in a child-like ‘yeah well I didn’t fancy you anyway’ manner. Be grateful that the person has taken the time to actually respond and do the only thing you can do in this situation.
Scrape your ego up off the floor, dust yourself down, and continue in your search.
Dating etiquette still applies online so in order to succeed, here are some basic principles that must still be adhered to.
What not to say in a first message I can’t tell you how many times I have seen guys (and it's always guys) crash and burn with an inane ‘wanna chat’ first message - just those two words, nothing else.
It’s your job to escalate a bit with a light tough to his hand, gazing intently at his eyes, and actually telling him “I’m having a really good time, thank you.” Gratitude is such a rare commodity that he will likely be quite smitten.